I’d say about 85% of the people who go out to eat in America’s restaurants are great to take care of. They go out to have a good time and socialize and enjoy good food and they are usually very nice and polite. My very first post on this blog was titled I Love The Restaurant Business (which I still maintain to be true), but without those people and of course the people I’ve worked with over the years it probably wouldn’t be as true.
This post isn’t about those people though.
This one is about that loud-assed minority that reinforce the idea in my mind that beyond all shadow of a doubt I earn every penny I make. The other fifteen percent that I’m talking about do not have as good of a time as they should when they go out to eat because they are too busy holding a grudge against us tipped employees to enjoy themselves. And I’m not using the word grudge lightly here, either. Judging from various comments and forum threads I’ve read and a lifetime of experience dealing with it, there are a lot of people out there that, for all intents and purposes, HATE us.
And I don’t think I’m being inappropriately sensitive about this either. Look up any news story on the internet about servers or restaurants and invariably in the comments section you will find a lot of hostile remarks that usually boil down to the same things over and over:
–Tipping is bad
–People that work for tips are bad
–Servers are lazy and stupid and whiny
–Any job in a restaurant is the easiest thing in the world to do shy of breathing and making babies
–If you work in a restaurant and are unhappy about ANY aspect of the job then you should simply go out and get one of those unicorn-esque real jobs
Let me just quote this asshole I came across on tiptheserver.com. This guy registered an account on a message board for restaurant servers so that he could post this well-written, thoroughly thought out dissertation about how he feels about wait staff:
“dear self-entitled cunts (aka FOOD FETCHERS)
you fucking idiots, the only people who think tips are mandatory are dumbfucks like you with the IQ of a walnut. no wonder you are food fetchers. you’re too fucking stupid to even grasp the concept of a tip. you stupid cunts, what makes you think you are so special that you are the only people in the service industry that EXPLICITLY deserve a tip? notice how fucking idiots like you can’t provide a LOGICAL reason to your asshole view of how everyone OWES you something? your argument is based on SHAMING THE CUSTOMER. fuck you, you piece of shit pathetic cunts. you are fucking losers who couldn’t get real jobs. you deserve to be laughed at. now go fetch the fries, you dumb cunts.
cry me a riverrrr… oh no you couldn’t find another job? are you fucking serious? so because you’re such incompetent MORONS, the rest of society should be FORCED to subsidize your pathetic existence? do you know what fucking retarded asshats you sound like? no wonder you are food fetchers.
and yeah, there are plenty of fucking losers like you who couldn’t make it in the real world. so you ended up food fetching. but there are also a lot of successful people who started as food fetchers– guess what, I WAS ONE OF THEM. but i didn’t bitch like you if i didn’t get a tip. i wasn’t happy, but i didn’t bitch about it because i realized i could quit at any time and the customer was under no obligation to give me anything. i worked my ass off to get my money.
you obviously think people OWE you something. no wonder you are fucking losers crying because nobody gave you a tip. hey food fetchers, did it ever occur to you that there are other people who provide services to others that DON’T GET TIPPED? what makes you think food fetchers are so fucking special that you should get what other service industry people don’t get? again, only fucking morons with a single digit IQ can’t grasp this concept of hard work.
and most food fetchers are feminist cunts who CLAIM to be “INDEPENDENT AND STRONG” and yet you EXPECT people GIVE YOU what you don’t deserve like they OWE YOU.
you are selfish, self-entitled CUNTS. feminism produces so many pathetic fucking losers like you that enjoy leeching off of society. i’m so happy i’m not a pathetic fucking loser like you begging for money. i’m so happy that i have the dignity and work ethic to make my own money and not think that strangers OWE me money.
Here’s a tip: GET A REAL JOB.”
I’d love to say I was blown away or shocked by all that but I’ve seen it all before a hundred times in a hundred different ways. In later comments on that thread someone asked why the moderators let that post stay up and the mod said that one of those slips through every once in a while but they left it on there because ‘it’s a typical post that happens a lot.’ Wow.
It’s amazing to me that not only do people feel that way but that they feel that way so strongly that they get on the internet and spew all this kind of hateful bigotry. Naturally the animosity subsides a bit when face to face but the feeling is still there. Clearly the guy that wrote the above rant needs A) a hug, and B) to go back in time and make sure the waitress that rejected him before responds in a positive way to his wooing. Sorry she didn’t want to go out with you, jack777. We’re all scratching our heads over here wondering how any chick could turn down a guy who so clearly has such accomplished social graces and verbal proficiency. It’s a puzzler.
What I would like to do is change these people’s perceptions of resties, but I have absolutely no clue as to how to go about doing this. Each side hurling insults at each other doesn’t get anything positive done. Whenever ‘the tipping debate’ gets brought up in real life or on the internet somebody will always take the ‘Mr. Pink’ approach and start spouting anti server sentiments and then in response a restaurant worker will take the ‘Fuck you, Mr. Pink’ approach and then it just goes on and on.
Everybody has a right to their own opinion I guess. Even hateful racists and homophobes are allowed to feel as much hate and intolerance for whomever or whatever they want. It doesn’t make them look any smarter or more evolved when they give voice to those thoughts. If some inarticulate hayseed stood on a street corner frothing at the mouth and screaming at the top of his lungs ‘I hate niggers and god hates faggots!’, how long would it take for him to get the tar piss beat out of him by some big, burly black dude and his husband?
Why should ‘food fetching cunts’ be considered all that different?
Dignity and Respect
Me, The JerBear